Life is backward for most people. I know a woman named Sally
and she is one of the most backward thinkers I’ve ever known, but she is funny
and personable. We love being around her.
She recently went through a very tough divorce and when I
asked her how things were going for her she simply said “terrible.” After an
awkward moment of silence she told me how much she missed him and I empathized
with her. She went on to tell me how she missed everything about him. She still loved him and enjoyed her
conversations with him. They especially liked the long walks they took
together. In the next sentence she told me “he was always so bitter.”
Whoa, that threw me for a loop and I was speechless. She
missed him? She missed their conversations and their walks together?
I finally
got up the courage to clarify things and Sally surprised me with an explanation
that I didn’t foresee. It turns out her
ex-husband was so bitter he fought for custody of their dog and won. And it also
turned out she loved her walks and conversations with her dog. When she said “I
miss him so much” she was talking about the dog. She didn’t miss her ex-husband
at all, but she sure missed that dog.
For days I would think about that conversation and laugh. I
was never going to forget that one.
Then, when I was at church this morning I heard another
conversation that seemed backward. This gentleman I’ve known through the church
for over five years was talking about a road-rage incident. This woman he was behind on the interstate
was in the fast lane, but was driving really slow he said. He said he was patient, for about 15 seconds,
and then he pulled up right behind her so she would realize how she was
blocking him. She didn't ’move over right away so he honked at her and motioned
her to move over. She finally moved over and when my friend passed her she gave
him the finger. It wasn’t over. He then
pulled right in front of her and slowed down to 69 miles per hour just to
intensify her anger. And then it happened.
The State Patrol was running an intensified speed trap right
in the area this all happened. They pulled him over, but left her alone. He almost
seemed like he was in a rage at the injustice of being pulled over and her
being let go. I had to leave at that point in the conversation so I missed the
rest of it.
One of my mutual friends had been right in the thick of it
during the telling of the story so later I asked how the story ended. He
started to smile and then broke into laughter as he told me the rest of the
story. It turned out our friend was
going 81 miles per hour and a State Patrolman on the other side of the freeway
had to turn around and catch up to him in order to issue a ticket to him. The patrolman saw what he did in his rage so
instead of a speeding ticket he was also cited for careless driving. The patrolman also told him he was lucky not
to be charged with reckless endangerment.
As it turned out he had been going 81 miles per hour and
pulled up behind this woman who was only doing 74. The speed limit was 70 but he wasn’t
satisfied with slowing down to 74 so he became enraged and acted like the village
idiot that had gone missing.
Ironically, the sermon was about forgiveness. Our pastor is a brilliant teacher and he drove
home the message of forgiveness. My fiancé
and I were excited about the message and thought about how great it was for everyone
to hear.
As we were leaving we saw this guy telling his road rage
story over again in the gathering grounds. He was still enraged with how this
woman “caused him to get a careless driving ticket” and how the “State
Patrolman ought to lose his job.” Anita and I smiled at each other and forgave
the storyteller for being so totally unaware of his hypocrisy.
We probably all know someone that goes to church every
Sunday but doesn’t have so much as a single piece of the Christian worldview. My
observation is that every time I meet someone who dwells on the past they are
unhappy. When I see someone with a vision for the future they have the ability
to lead and are generally happy.
There is a message there. If you want to become very happy,
figure out what God’s will is for you and establish a vision for yourself. After that, dedicate yourself to your vision
and work toward it every day. The little crimes against you don’t seem so bad
and forgiveness comes easy.
Finding God’s will for you will be a life-changing
event. If my friend did that he might
look to himself for the reasons he got a speeding and careless driving ticket.
It is impossible to drive into a bright future when you find you are looking in
the mirror the whole time. In real life we don’t always realize what’s going to
happen.
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